Etched in Sand: A True Story of
Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island by Regina
Calcaterra (William Morrow, August 2013)
Regina Calcaterra is a well-respected attorney in
New York and was part of the response team for New York City immediately after
Superstorm Sandy. She has worked hard
lobbying for social justice on the national and local levels, and is a board
member of You Gotta Believe, an organization that works toward finding older
children in the foster care system permanent home situations. To read this story of a young girl who fought
to keep herself above water and her younger siblings from harm makes her life,
achievements and passions even that more amazing. Regina, along with two older sisters and a
younger brother and sister moved from house to trailer to apartment with their
addicted and abusive mother Cookie. Her
eldest sister is married when Regina starts her story and her next oldest
sister tells Regina it is time for her to take over and moves in with a friend
from school for the summer. Knowing the
worst thing that can happen is for Child Services to find out about the
remaining three siblings, Regina tries hard the summer she is thirteen to
provide food, a relatively clean place to live and comfort for her younger
siblings after their mother abandons them in a house on Long Island, doing
whatever she feels necessary to keep the remaining family together. When Cookie returns and beats Regina beyond
recognition, a teacher in the school finally steps in and Regina and her older
sister are sent to one home, her brother and sister to another. Thinking that emancipating herself will save
her brother and sister, Regina does just that, only to have Cookie find out,
become enraged and take the children to live with her in Idaho. Over the next few years, Regina fights for
good grades in school, earns a spot on the gymnastics team but never gives up
trying to save Norman and Rosie from her mother. She also reaches out to the father she never
knew and is rebuffed and tries, as she nears adulthood, to learn why her mother
hated her most of all the children, hoping she will be able to heal from the
abusive relationship, knowing they will never be able to have a healthy
one. That any of the children survived
this life as well as they each seem to have is remarkable, that Regina was able
to rise above it, educate herself and put herself in a position where she was
able to help others from a similar fate is nothing short of remarkable.